Should i be concerned about trusting him?

so i've been with my boyfriend for a little over four months now and i've had a few issues trusting him. first of all, i divorced my ex husband following several instances of him hooking up with people he met online. that being said, after my boyfriend got home from his last trip out to sea (he's a merchant marine - 2 months on, 2 off), he left his email open on my computer and i saw a bunch of emails between him and this girl from singapore (where he had just spent a week) with a lot of "baby"s and "i miss you"s. he told me she was just a friend and he would stop talking to her if it made me uncomfortable. but i checked his email (i know, i know) a couple weeks later and they were still talking. so i confronted him again. now he just deletes everything. now he's been gone for a month and he told me his current ship doesn't have wifi which is why i only hear from him every now and then when the sat phone isn't supposedly down or he can get to the computer to use the ship's joint email account. well, i just got the itch to look at his email, and he's been talking to a freaking car dealer for two days now, but i haven't heard from him at all because he's been soooooo tired. what do it think at this point???Should i be concerned about trusting him?
Hello. Here's the real fact. Please face the music. If you have not been sneaking and seeing things like his private stuff (personal email), you would not have known it right? This is a case of serve you right for being such a busy body woman. Now, if I were him and you kept nagging me about this, I will just get irritated and will spend more time with that non naggy singapore girl. Now you know the real reason why he said his current ship doesn't have wifi and called you less often. Since every time your on the line with him, your always reminding and nagging him about the girl ( that's also the reason I think why he's so tired and afraid to call you). Guess he's now busy with that girl and due to that, he could be soooooo tired. My take is that he's no longer interested in you because you know about this but If you did not know about this incident, things might turn out better as he just wants a fling with that girl. Your actually driving him and the girl together due to your constant nagging. Regarding to your question about trusting him ......all I can say is that if you did not know about this incident, you could trust him to remain with you forever but since your such a busybody, both of you will never trust each other anymore.
I think you know the answer, but you are scared to think it. Here's hoping that I'm terribly wrong... but if I'm right, I'm terribly sorry. You will be in my prayers.Should i be concerned about trusting him?
i think he is a lying untrustworthy douche bag

sorry love
I am sorry to say this, but he probably has somebody on the side. I understand that he is somewhere across the world, but wouldn't he do more than half-assed attempts to communicate with you? If he continued to talk with that chick from Singapore after he told you he wouldn't, what stops him from seeing someone else too? It certainly seems he is hiding a lot of things, and unless this is some sappy hollywood movie, the singapore chick is not the mere friend helping him find the perfect gift for you or some cliched crud like that.

Maybe you could talk to him about this next time he does decide to communicate with you.



Good Luck

P.S. From what I've read it seems he is one shitty boyfriend and some things can't be forgiven, you can do much better and find someone who truly and honestly cares about you.Should i be concerned about trusting him?
It looks like you have all the signs and the fact that you're even questioning your trust for him says it all. Look at how much evidence, not only in nature, but how many times and over how long of time this has happened and keeps happening with your current boyfriend. A Cheater is a cheater. It's a habit, almost like an addiction. Not being satisfied with one person is not something that goes away without help; it's usually a character quality not a one-time thing. This guy is only proving that even more true in his case. He's telling all kinds of lies on top of it, too. When will the cheating stop? When will the lying stop? Also, the longer you're together, the harder it will be to break it off. You don't deserve to get a disease from him that he brings back from his endeavors. Why risk it? Why waste your time? You deserve and can get far better.
He's being dishonest. I'm not saying he's cheating....yet. But he's being dishonest and if there are babys and I miss yous....the percentage that he cheated increase 50%.



Either get it all out in the open and give him the opportunity to be able to trust you that he can open up to you, or ditch him!
Re Read what you wrote . You know what is going on, denial keeps your feelings safe right now. Did you keep her email addy at least? If yes, email her and ask her questions but, be prepared for what you might not want to hear. If he is playing her too and that might be the case, keep your calm so you can get your answers, once that happens ..take proper legal action and move on you don't want to live with a guy who is living a double life... right?